I know that it looks like it’s all rainbows and kittens up in here–with my non-drinking self–but I won’t lie: There are times that I miss it. As the years pass, and I’m further and further away from the last drink I took, it’s gotten easier for sure. Also, I can step back and really think it through and realize that I didn’t have a healthy relationship with alcohol and that things would very likely spin out of control if I let it. I’m not willing to let it, so I shake it off.
But there are consistently times that I still yearn over the idea of alcohol.
- Patio dining. I’m not sure why, but there’s something about nice weather and the allure of restaurant patios that make me miss drinking. That “I’m outdoorsy; I like to drink on patios” meme was written for me.
- Girls’ Night Out: There’s something very unfair-feeling about going out on a rare evening with my friends and not being able to unwind with a drink (or 7). What a perfect way to truly kick-back and relax than to share precious gossip time with your best girlfriends over drinks. Letting inhibition fly out the window for the night and pretending to be unencumbered by life for a moment. But, I’ve learned how to do all of those things without alcohol and here’s the post to prove it.
- Date Night: Again, a rarity in our house, but when my husband and I get an opportunity to go somewhere and have an uninterrupted conversation over dinner, I do miss alcohol. Alcohol always seemed to remove my inhibitions enough so that I felt braver bringing up topics of discussion that I wouldn’t have easily discussed with my husband sober (like, finances, for instance). These days though, a Date Night for sure includes dessert and sometimes a coffee after dinner for me and that’s almost as good as wine. Almost.
- Vacations: Again, with the “it’s not fair” whining, but vacations are for escaping your everyday life and indulging, right? Being sober on a vacation feels just wrong. But, waking up clear-headed and refreshed, ready to explore and take on the day in a new locale is worth its weight in gold–gold, I tell ya. Don’t knock it until you try it.
- Football season: There’s something about those first few NFL Sunday games that make even this non-football-fan want a drink. Call it habit or muscle memory, but the NFL theme song gets me every time.
All of this to say….yes, I do miss alcohol occasionally, but I don’t miss what it did to me or how it made me feel in the long-term.
It’s very similar to a past relationship. After it’s over, it’s easy to forget the bad stuff–how his breath was so bad after he drank a Starbuck’s espresso; how his mother was cold and condescending–and to instead focus on the good things, as if the whole relationship is bathed in Barbara Walter’s blurred, fuzzy camera magic. It’s the same with alcohol. Luckily, I know that life is so much better on this side of the glass.
If you’re a non-drinker, when do you miss alcohol?